Emotional Intelligence in Relationships

Some people just seem to have an easy way of being in a relationship.  What do they know that many others do not know?

Oftentimes, it is that hard to identify quality of emotional intelligence, the ability to recognize and control their emotions, that some people have that gives them the ability to be successful in relationships.  Emotional intelligence involves the ability to understand and accept ones’ own emotions and manage them in ways that enhance relationships with others.

Don is someone who has a high EQ.  He can identify when he is angry about something and is able to give it a voice in his head and body but to also slow his response to the anger down so that he can calmly and thoughtfully determine a way of handling the situation that caused him to become mad.

Sandy is very perceptive.  She can recognize emotions with others and carefully asses how those emotions are affecting her or the relationship.  Sandy can talk openly and ask questions in ways that do not invite defensiveness but rather invite others to talk with her calmly.

Ben’s parents are teaching him to recognize his feelings, accept that they are real and, in and of themselves, are not bad or good.  They are helping Ben learn how to  slow himself down enough to determine productive ways to handle them.

Emotionally intelligent people are able to:

Identify their own emotions.  They can recognize when they are hurt, disappointed, sad or feeling vulnerable and do not always immediately respond in angry, confrontational ways.

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