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Should or Can There Be Forgiveness After An Affair?

Can there be forgiveness after an affair?  Are spouses or betrayed partners really able to let go of resentment, anger and fear of more betrayals?

The simple answer is “yes” although the process to get there is not an easy one.  Forgiveness is tough.  Most wonder how they can be expected to forgive one of the most painful experiences of their lives.

True forgiveness, however, brings about an inner peace in your heart and in your mind.  It allows you to be different than the events in your life.  You no longer define yourself by your injuries.

Forgiveness should not come quickly and best comes with dialogue and work with and by both partners.

Even if the person who has had the affair is not willing to work; however, and the marriage may not be saved, it is still an important step toward health for the one who was betrayed to find a way to forgive.

Let’s talk for a minute about the idea of forgiveness, what it is … and what it isn’t.

Forgiveness isn’t:

Forgetting. The affair (or affairs) happened and affected your life.  Shake hands with that experience but develop a richer and fuller story about yourself, about who you are and what your life is about.  You might be a betrayed spouse but that is not all that defines you as a person.  Remember the much bigger story about you.

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September 9, 2010 - Posted by | affairs, cheating spouse, Forgiveness, infidelity

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