Relationship Dilemma Remedies

A Blog About Solving Common Relationship Dilemmas

Couples Therapy: Can It Help?

  • Problems in your marriage?
  • Unhappy with where things are right now between you and your partner?
  • Wonder if couples therapy might make a difference?

What do you have to lose?  Facing up to the situation and owning your part in it can be a step in the right direction.

remember_when_image042Most couples wait a long time after a problem develops before they ever ask for help.  Research shows that problems may go on for 6 years before a couple either asks for help or ends the marriage.

The longer that a problem goes on, the more likely it is that positive feelings and behaviors will erode and disappear.  Couples therapy may be able to help you resolve the problems that you are experiencing.

A skilled and knowledgeable couples therapist can provide a safe haven to talk about the hardest of issues and can teach you the skills to be able to carry on those conversations at home.

Good marriage counselors do not want their couples to hang around forever.  They want them to be able to be successful on their own.

Here are some good reasons to see a couples therapist.

Click here to read the article “Couples Therapy: Can It Help?”

May 13, 2013 Posted by | arguments, conflict, couples, Emotionally intelligent in relationships, falling back in love, keeping love alive | 1 Comment

How Effective Are You In An Emotionally Intelligent Relationship?

Circle your answer to the following questions.

1.   I am able to remain calm when having a disagreement with my spouse.
Yes                                                              No

2.   If I find myself starting to get upset when we disagree or he or she is talking with me about a problem, I can find a way to calm myself down, even if it means that I need to take a break.
Yes                                                              No

3.   We have many more positive things happen in our daily lives, than negative ones.
Yes                                                             No

4.   We can share struggles that we have with others without giving each other unsolicited advice.
Yes                                                              No

5.   I feel respected and appreciated by my partner.
Yes                                                             No

Click here to take the rest of the quiz and find out your score.

March 28, 2012 Posted by | Emotionally intelligent in relationships, Handling feelings appropriately in relationships | Leave a comment

Emotional Intelligence in Relationships

Some people just seem to have an easy way of being in a relationship.  What do they know that many others do not know?

Oftentimes, it is that hard to identify quality of emotional intelligence, the ability to recognize and control their emotions, that some people have that gives them the ability to be successful in relationships.  Emotional intelligence involves the ability to understand and accept ones’ own emotions and manage them in ways that enhance relationships with others.

Don is someone who has a high EQ.  He can identify when he is angry about something and is able to give it a voice in his head and body but to also slow his response to the anger down so that he can calmly and thoughtfully determine a way of handling the situation that caused him to become mad.

Sandy is very perceptive.  She can recognize emotions with others and carefully asses how those emotions are affecting her or the relationship.  Sandy can talk openly and ask questions in ways that do not invite defensiveness but rather invite others to talk with her calmly.

Ben’s parents are teaching him to recognize his feelings, accept that they are real and, in and of themselves, are not bad or good.  They are helping Ben learn how to  slow himself down enough to determine productive ways to handle them.

Emotionally intelligent people are able to:

Identify their own emotions.  They can recognize when they are hurt, disappointed, sad or feeling vulnerable and do not always immediately respond in angry, confrontational ways.

Click here to read the rest of this article describing the qualities of people who are able to be emotionally intelligent in their relationships.

August 1, 2011 Posted by | Emotionally intelligent in relationships, Handling feelings appropriately in relationships, Recognizing feelings | 1 Comment