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Make Some Rules For A Trial Separation

Are you thinking about separating from your spouse?
Do you think that you all are so locked in a pattern that you don’t know how to change?
A trial separation may be something to try and might give you each the space to focus on changing yourself and your part of the problem.

Here are some times when a trial separation might be considered as a possible remedy.
  • When you and your partner are fighting frequently, at least daily, with little or no resolution about any problem.
  • When the ugly pattern has been going on for months and neither of you can find their way out of it.
  • When there has been physical violence … even once.
  • When the fighting has escalated to such a point that there is frequent name-calling and the use of explosive language.
  • When one person has asked for space a lot but their spouse has not been able to allow that to happen and has continued to push for more time together.

Here are some things to consider together as you talk about whether or not a separation might be something to try.

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September 15, 2009 Posted by | arguments, conflict, couples, Separation | 3 Comments

Trial Separation: Is This A Way To Save A Marriage?

There are times when separating can save a marriage.  This idea seems to run against what many people might think.  Often couple, or half of a couple, believe that they need to stay together in order to try to work things out; however, there are times when the space and distance offered by a trial separation can make a big difference by interrupting difficult patterns and giving couples the space to each think about the problems and their own part in the “dance“.

    When talking about a separation, it is good to think about how to do it responsibly and respectfully.  We want to share with you some factors to consider if a trial separation is a possibility and some of the best ways to think and talk about it.

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    August 18, 2009 Posted by | couples, marriage, Separation | Leave a comment