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Roles in Relationships

Pam’s mother was an attorney and a very strong woman.  Her dad traveled with his job in sales.  They were very business-like in their decision-making and handled most things jointly.

There was a lot of humor in Pam’s family but not a lot of warmth.  Caring and concern were usually shown through purchases and experiences.  Pam was very clear that her parents loved her and each other but it was shown more through gifts, money and travel rather than affection.

Jim’s family was somewhat different.  He grew up in a family that was very loving and openly affectionate.  His mother worked part-time as a nurse and still managed to do all of the cooking, laundry and child care.  His dad helped out a bit with chores inside and handled everything outside.  Jim’s dad handled the family finances and made most of the decisions about money.  They had a lot of family time together and his parents really protected their time alone.

When Jim and Pam married, they had different ideas for how a marriage should be lived and what the roles “should“ be in relationships.  Neither one was wrong.  They were just different.  They brought to the marriage what many do, their own ideas and expectations for their roles and that of their spouse in the relationship.

We all come to relationships with ideas of how we and our partner “should“ behave.  Sometimes our ideas and expectations for roles in relationships are similar.  Sometimes they are different. Problems can arise when partners have different ideas for each of their roles in relationships.

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May 30, 2013 Posted by | marriage, Relationship Dilemmas, roles in relationships, women and relationships | | Leave a comment

Understanding Women: Ten Secrets Men Should Know About Women

Have you seen that coffee table book … the thick book, the one with the title “Everything Men Know About Women”?  When you open it up, every page is blank.

Women can be complicated and men are often perplexed about the best ways to treat them.  For help in understanding women, a man may talk with his guy friends … sometimes a good idea, sometimes not so good.  He may also talk with his female friends or relatives for help in understanding women … generally a better idea.

In reality, all women are not the same, so the best person to ask advice in understanding women is the woman herself.  Women love to talk about what they like and what makes them happy.  Some well-phrased questions are appreciated and flattering.

Just to get you started, however, here are some helpful hints to help you in your quest of understanding women and it might make a difference for you in your relationship.

Understanding Women:  Top Ten Secrets

1.  Women need to feel special. They really want their man to show that they have thought about them, what they want, and look for a way to make it happen.

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January 19, 2011 Posted by | Dating, dating advice, men, men and dating, relationship advice for women, Relationship Dilemmas, women and relationships | Leave a comment

7 Secrets Women Should Know About Men

Men think that women are complicated … well, men can be even more complicated!  If men could just be more like women life could be so much easier, at least some of the problems would not be there.

If men were more like women, then when a woman turns to a man and says “honey, we need to talk,” he would not immediately say … “whoops, meeting Bill at the bar to watch the game in 10 minutes.  Maybe next month we can talk.”

Shopping would surely be a breeze as well.  You could also count on a real opinion when you ask for a comment on your new dress or drapes.

Yes, we would miss a few things.  Some things more than others.  Women do have to spend a little time “figuring out their guy”.  Here are a few secrets to share.

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October 29, 2010 Posted by | advice, dating advice, marriage, men, relationship advice for women, women and relationships | 1 Comment