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Tip of the Week, May 3, 2009
Your children get only one childhood.
Tip of the Week, April 26, 2009
Don’t audit life, show up and make the most of it now.
Is Someone You Love Depressed?
Living with someone who is depressed can look and sound very differently than what you would normally expect of a person suffering from depression. For some it may have more the appearance of anger and irritability. For others, it may seem like laziness or irresponsibility. While for others it may seem like a deep sadness with a lot of tears and sad, unhappy and negative talk.
Here are some questions for you to consider when thinking about someone you love who does not seem to be acting in ways that are healthy and positive.
- Has there been a change in sleep habits? Does your loved one sleep a lot more or a lot less than in the past?
- Has there been a marked change in his or her eating habits, eating a lot more and gaining weight or eating a lot less and losing weight?
- Does your loved one seem to be a lot more unhappy and negative and have difficulty recognizing the good things in life?
- Does he or she seem to have a lot of trouble with making decisions?
- Is your loved one more forgetful and seem to have difficulty concentrating?
- Do you notice frequent irritability or an underlying anger?
If you answer “yes” to several of these questions, the answer may be that your loved one is suffering from depression.
Some beginning things for you to consider as a way to be helpful are:
* Educate yourself about depression. Learning more about it may help you find ways to talk with the person you love about your concerns.
* Talk with them and acknowledge the positive things about him/her and your life together. Know that it may be hard to hear positive talk. You do not want to come off as “fake” so you will want to keep comments small, specific and behavioral like “Thanks for getting the children today.” “That color really looks nice on you.” “I appreciate your ideas about this and will absolutely use them.”
* Recognize that depression is not something one chooses and can readily change. It is not about being lazy or irresponsible and a “cure” does not happen overnight. Some live with sad or down times off and on throughout their life and will often struggle with and look for ways to cope with it effectively.
* Remind your loved one of things that they have done in the past to feel better and get through tough times. It may be that these same things will work once more.
* Take care of yourself to make sure that you, and your children, do not “catch” the depression. The “blues” and negativity can be contagious so you want to find ways to immunize yourself and prevent its spread.
* If your loved one will not talk with a therapist or the doctor, consider going yourself.
Do you have other ideas about what has been helpful for you? We welcome your comments and feedback.
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Tip of the Week, April 19, 2009
“I knew couples who’d been married almost forever forty, fifty, sixty years, seventy-two, in one case. They’d be tending each other’s illnesses, filling in each other’s faulty memories, dealing with the money troubles or the daughter’s suicide, or the grandson’s drug addiction. And I was beginning to suspect that it made no difference whether they’d married the right person. Finally, you’re just with who you’re with. You’ve signed on with her, put in a half century with her, grown to know her as well as you know yourself or even better, and she’s become the right person. Or the only person, might be more to the point. I wish someone had told me that earlier. I’d have hung on then; I swear I would.”
Anne Tyler, “A Patchwork Planet”
Tip of the Week, April 12, 2009
We are never so vulnerable as when we are in love.
Sigmund Freud
Tip of the Week, April 5, 2009
“We don’t accomplish anything in this world alone.”
Sandra Day O’Connor
Tip of the Week, March 29, 2009
Listening first in a disagreement is a good way to build trust.
Tip of the Week, March 22, 2009
“Everyone of us wants to show how much we care for each other and, in the process, care for ourselves.”
Princess Diana
Tip of the Week, March 15, 2009
May you have the hindsight to know where you’ve been
the foresight to know where you’re going
and the insight to know when you’re going too far.
… Irish Proverb
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